Caribbean People, Do We Date?
I've sat down and tried to analyse this, even in the company of my peers. Basically we've came up with the conclusion that we do not date in the Caribbean, but merely go through a process or stage of getting to know an individual and giving a time frame after which things would kick off into the serious business- the " we are exclusive". At this point the relationship has been defined or D.T.R. We've decided that dating seems more a Foreign culture which may or may not have been adopted by various Caribbean individuals.
D.T.R- Now providing that both parties have sat down and discuss this, with both understanding what ever they propose their relationship would be and not one party (in their mind) having a relationship, while the other seems to be single. In most cases, this happens, I call it "miscommunication or the situation-ship" . Of course, over a period of time, with growth and aging this so call miscommunication will diminish.
In the old time days, my Grand mother once told me.... if a young man in a village likes a young lady, he would have to ask her parents to "court" (subject to spelling correction) her, a period of talking with the young lady, taking her out, no kissing, inappropriate touching or coiting would take place until he ask for her hand in marriage.
I propose the following age, 30+, as the "aint got no time for this, just cut to the chase" phase, which may not be the case 100% of the time since we still have individuals with childish mentally stuck in an educated adult body or even young individual having a mature mindset. The result may vary. After a certain time frame of getting to know each other, which may include spending quality time together, with friends or meeting the family, parties will decided if the other is reasonable enough to be a life time partner or not. At this age, no one who got goals and life time plans wants to be stuck playing merry-go-round, it's either you are for it or you're not.
whatever it may be, times have change our way of thinking, evolve if I may call it.
As always, one's opinion should be respected in this.
What are you thoughts on this?
Do you as an individual date?